Put It Down.
A method for ending roles that won't quit on their own.
You've tried to stop. You've set boundaries. You've told yourself you're done.
But the role keeps running. Managing. Smoothing. Carrying what no longer fits.
This is how you consciously complete it.
Why You Can't "Just Stop"
You know you should stop managing their emotions.
You know you should stop smoothing things over.
You know you should stop carrying what's no longer yours.
But knowing isn't enough.
The role isn't a choice you're making consciously.
It's a nervous system pattern you've trained for years.
You can't think your way out of something your body learned through repetition.
That's why willpower fails.
That's why time alone doesn't fix it.
That's why even therapy—while helpful—doesn't complete the ending.
The role has to be consciously released.
How it Works
The Method
Identify
What you're still carrying
Private writing to name what's still active.
What you're managing. What would stop if you stopped.No one sees this.
Just you getting honest about what persists.
Release
Name what you're done with
Out loud.
One sentence. One ending.
Witnessed by others in silence.
No comfort. No advice.
Just... received as true.
Complete
Mark the ending
Your nervous system registers: This is finished.
Not through processing.
Not through analysis.
Through witnessed completion.
This isn't therapy. It's not empowerment coaching. It's structured completion work for roles that won't quit on their own.
Join Women Who've Put It Down
At Put It Down, you're not joining a community—you're marking an ending. The work happens in 2.5 hours, then you move on.
But if you want to go deeper, explore other roles you're carrying, or continue practicing conscious completion, we offer advanced workshops, weekend immersions, and resources for women who've done the foundational work.
This isn't about staying connected. It's about having access when you need it.
Take The Next Step
Current Workshops
Put It Down: The Wife Role
For women who are separated or divorced but still carrying the role internally.
Managing their calendar. Protecting their reputation. Being the one who shows up.
The relationship ended. The role didn't. Yet.
2.5 Hours
1 Zoom Session
Beginner Level
Put It Down: The Protector Role
For women who are done being the only adult in the room.
Managing the fear. Making the plans. Carrying the "what if" while your partner stays oblivious.
You don't have to leave to put it down.
2.5 hours
1 Zoom Session
Beginner Level
Is This For You?
This IS for You
If....
You've tried to stop but the role snaps back
You can see the pattern but can't change it
Therapy helped you understand, but not complete it
You're exhausted from carrying what no longer fits
You're ready for structured completion, not endless processing
You can self-regulate without facilitator support
This is NOT You
If....
You're still deciding whether to leave.
You need emotional support or crisis intervention
You want advice about what to do next
You're in acute mental health crisis.
Why it works
Your nervous system learned these roles through repetition—sometimes over years or decades.
You can't think your way out of a pattern your body learned through experience.
The role has to be consciously released. Out loud. Witnessed. Marked as finished.
Not analyzed. Not processed. Not explained.
Completed.
Not therapy: We don't diagnose, treat, or process emotions. We mark endings.
Not support: There's no ongoing community or follow-up.
Not empowerment: We don't tell you who to become. We help you put down who you've stopped being.
You free up energy that's been going to a role that no longer fits.
You create space for what's next—without dragging what's over into it.
HAVE QUESTIONS?
Get In Touch
Questions about the workshops? Want to discuss facilitator training? Need clarification about whether this work is right for you? Reach out!
Please note: This is not a crisis service. If you're experiencing a mental health emergency,
please contact 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) immediately.
Office:
555 S Fayetteville ST
Ste 300 Raleigh, NC 27601
Call
984-510-9965
Email: [email protected]
Site: www.putitdown.co